The Problem with “50 Shades of Grey” – Part 2

Over this weekend, thousands of people around the globe will flock to the their local theaters to view what some are saying is the most highly anticipated film of this year. It’s not a family film, it’s not a superhero film, a chick flick, or a teen fiction film. It is “50 Shades of Grey”. Touted by its supporters as a unique, raw romance, the book has sold millions of copies around the world. I did a post a while back on this, and I thought I would amend it with the release of the film.

And why should this concern us? Because there are many Christians who will be supporting this film. This story that is filled with sex, violence, abuse, and immorality, will be viewed by the same people who say that they agree with the Bible. This should concern us greatly. did a review of this film, and I could only skim over it. However, the film is not something that I, or any Christian, could possible support in good conscience. It isn’t just the obvious problems, like sex, nakedness, swearing, and such. The bigger issue with this film is the lifestyle and morals it is portraying as right.

First and foremost, this film is telling us that premarital sex is ok. That should be a major red light if the other issues weren’t. There isn’t much to elaborate on here. The main reason I take issue with this is because it is so easy to become desensitized to this sin through stories like this one.

The second, and probably the most important to me, is that this story makes abuse look good. Now, I know that what goes on in the relationship between the characters is often called innocent, but the reviews I have read tell me a different story. Christian Grey hits Ana(The female main character) because he is angry with her. Now try and tell me that this isn’t abuse. He stalks her. He wants to control every aspect of her life. I have spoken with several women who have been in abusive relationships, and the ones who have read this story talk about the horrible similarities to their own experiences in the story. And that is one of the most horrible things about this story. It glorifies abuse. And women like it. I know many women who talk about wanting their own “Christian Grey”. REALLY? You want a man who will control, manipulate, and abuse you for his own personal gain? Not only does this sicken me, it breaks my heart. It hurts to think that our culture has drifted so far.

And the last reason, which I discussed in an earlier post, is this: “50 Shades” twists God’s beautiful design for intimacy. Call what happens in the story what you will, but God never intended for intimacy to be what the story makes it. Fear, pain, and not born in the least out of love. I have read several reviews discussing the fact that the main character often states that he does not do what he does out of love. And that is even worse.

What I am trying to say is this: Our culture has drifted so far from the truth and wisdom of God’s word, but even further from basic moral decency. You want to promote porn? That’s bad enough. But porn that makes abuse seem attractive? That is pretty much the lowest a person could stoop without actually participating in abuse or porn. So why do so many Christian women read this book, and excitedly await their turn at the movies? Some of them are single, some are married. I know some teens who read the books. Is it our sin nature? Or is it something deeper? I fear that little by little, Satan has crept into the minds of Christians, whispering things like: “It’s not really porn…” “It won’t hurt just this once…” “But look how good this makes it look!”.

And when there are believers who are bold enough to speak out against this film, you know what happens? They are immediately called out for “judging” and “trying to take God’s place”. And I think this quote sums it up perfectly: “The further a society drifts from the truth, the more it will hate those who speak it.”

And I know that we all want a good romance on Valentines day, but I don’t an abusive sex fest counts. So might I suggest some far cleaner (and I believe, more entertaining and far deeper) alternatives? Anything by Jane Austen (book or film, you choose) is certainly a good choice, as well as “Jane Eyre”, and “North and South”. Or if you’re not a regency kind of person, there are plenty of great Hallmark films out there. Or might I suggest a good ole’ “Lord of the Rings” marathon? I myself will likely be on a “date” with my favorite Jane Austen characters (probably Mr. Darcy and the Bennets). There is also a lovely sounding film in theaters called “Old Fashioned”, and if it were showing in my town, I would definitely see it!

Well, this turned into more of a rant than I planned, but I needed to say what has been on my heart for a while. And if this post offended you because you enjoy these stories, I would ask that you consider this: What is this story doing to your heart? Your mind? Your spiritual life? And if you happen to be married: Your marriage? Remember, Satan works through the seemingly minor things, and he slips through the cracks in our spiritual armor almost undetected. Take some time to consider it, and consider spending your hard earned money on something much more meaningful and pure.

“Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable – if there is any moral excellence and if there is any praise – dwell on these things.” Phillipians 4:8

“I will not set anything Godless before my eyes. I hate the doing of transgression, it will not cling to me.” Psalm 101:3


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